One of the most common forms of emotion is ANGER which requires our deep observation. Most of the time , most of us come under the influence of anger. I personally examined this emotion as per my understanding. My finding is that when we have some expectations we believe that our expectations MUST be fulfilled. We argue for fulfillment of our expectations. We act for the same. Why do we so? It's for satisfaction of our EGO(and not SELF). When it's done by others we feel satisfied . But when it's not done our EGO gets hurt, it disturbs our equilibrium, which results in spate of emotions. We lose control from our behaviour. Our wisdom departs. Result is our rash reaction. This produces ANGER. So it's our EXPECTATIONS which appear to be primary cause. But no. It's our ATTACHMENT to the object or person which produces EXPECTATIONS. This attachment again comes from our SENSE OF BELONGINGNESS with others. So detachment is the primary remedy. Get detached, then move. EGO will depart, EXPECTATIONS will not be there, then there can't be ANGER.
But how we achieve this DETACHMENT? Does the DETACHMENT mean moving away? No . Moving away is something physical. And DETACHMENT is a mental distance. Moving away doesn't ensure detachment. We may move away from some one or some body but still we may have strong attraction or distraction from that. So how can we achieve DETACHMENT? This is achieved by accepting everyone's SELF. Everyone has his or her SELF and thay SELF is independent from ours. Let that SELF act individually. If there is a common good between two SELF both will act in unisome without affecting each other. Rather both act with mutual respect. So both can exist without attaching with each other. But as soon as any SELF interferes with other problem.of ATTACHMENT begins. Mutual hatred is not DETACHMENT because HATRED is an emotion based on expectation and thereby ATTACHMENT.